My father has passed away

meadowyck · March 7, 2014

On Wednesday night my father after a 6 week illness passed from this life to his spiritual life.

You had a great run of years 87, 7 more than you ever dreamed you would enjoy. I'm glad you are no longer suffering and that you are now free from that.

To all who have been so kind to share your great tomato seeds, I am so thankful to you and hope you will understand why I've been away and not acknowledging that I've received them.

I'll be home for the weekend and will be getting most if not all of them planted, before I have to head back south next week to continue to look after my step mother until we figure out how to best take care of her.

I want some homegrown maters....LOL

FaithHopeLove · March 7, 2014

Sp very sorry for the loss of your Father. ;( Thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.

Doug9345 · March 7, 2014

You have my condolences.

pdxwindjammer · March 8, 2014

I am so sad for you.

I posted a similar post when my mom passed away 3 years ago and it was deleted by the moderators. I had hoped to find support from all the folks here who I share my love of gardening with so don't be surprised if this disappears.

Just know that this community cares about you and grieves with you.

Redbaron · March 8, 2014

Sending my prayers.

Cole_Robbie · March 8, 2014

sorry for your loss

gssgarden · March 8, 2014

So sorry!

momato · March 8, 2014

Very sorry for your loss

Father'sDaughter · March 8, 2014

I am so sorry for your loss.

ExpendableZero · March 8, 2014

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.

Alpinejs · March 8, 2014

I am glad that your father was so dear to you and that the memories are good ones.

Wi-sunflower · March 8, 2014

I want to add my condolences also. I know all too well how awful you probably feel right now because my Mom died recently too. (the end of Dec. she was 92)

You feel much like I did in that the pain and suffering are over for them but is just beginning for us. While it's not easy, don't be afraid to grieve. It's a necessary part of the process of going on. I still find myself thinking "oh I should call Mom and tell her about that" and then have to remember "oh I can't". But it does gradually get easier. The thoughts gradually change to "Mom would have liked that" and you have a fond memory rather than the hurt.

This is not an easy time. Hopefully you have some friends and family that can help with all that goes along with taking care of your step-Mom. I was fortunate that my Sister was a tremendous help and organized most of the clean out of Mom's apartment.

Something else that has helped me is just writing about things like this in a few threads here and on FaceBook. Let it out.

Carol

katkoot · March 8, 2014

So sorry for your loss. My father isn't doing the best as well, and I feel your loss strongly.

Zana · March 8, 2014

Jan,
I'm sorry to hear of the passing of your father. I know the pain and grief but also relief that goes with losing a parent who has been in failing health. Like Carol said, let it out. Write it down - privately or publically, whichever you choose. Whatever works for you. The good folks here at Tomatoville are here for you, if you need us.
Zana

meadowyck · March 8, 2014

Thanks to all of you. I lost my mom 12 years ago and now that both parents are gone, it is a very strange way of life to no longer have the two folks who know everything about you from the time of your birth to when you left home to enter to big wide world on your own....

Again for those who are having to go through health issues with you parents I am praying for you, that you are given strength.

Again to all the members here who shared their wonderful seeds with me I can't thank you enough. As gardening is a healing form of therapy for me.

March 7, 2014	#1
meadowyck Tomatovillian™ Join Date: May 2012 Location: Brooksville, FL Posts: 1,001	My father has passed away On Wednesday night my father after a 6 week illness passed from this life to his spiritual life. You had a great run of years 87, 7 more than you ever dreamed you would enjoy. I'm glad you are no longer suffering and that you are now free from that. To all who have been so kind to share your great tomato seeds, I am so thankful to you and hope you will understand why I've been away and not acknowledging that I've received them. I'll be home for the weekend and will be getting most if not all of them planted, before I have to head back south next week to continue to look after my step mother until we figure out how to best take care of her. I want some homegrown maters....LOL __________________ Jan “Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.” -Theodore Roosevelt

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Redbaron Tomatovillian™ Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 4,488	Sending my prayers. __________________ Scott AKA The Redbaron "Permaculture is a philosophy of working with, rather than against nature; of protracted & thoughtful observation rather than protracted & thoughtless labour; & of looking at plants & animals in all their functions, rather than treating any area as a single-product system." Bill Mollison co-founder of permaculture

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Zana Tomatovillian™ Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Southwestern Ontario, Canada Posts: 4,521	Jan, I'm sorry to hear of the passing of your father. I know the pain and grief but also relief that goes with losing a parent who has been in failing health. Like Carol said, let it out. Write it down - privately or publically, whichever you choose. Whatever works for you. The good folks here at Tomatoville are here for you, if you need us. Zana __________________ Zana ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ There is a fine line between genius and crazy. I like to use that line as a jump rope. ~Anonymous (but I totally agree with this! LOL) Forgive and Forget? I'm neither Jesus or nor do I have Alzheimers. ~ Anonymous Until he extends his circle of compassion to include all living things, man will not himself find peace. -- Dr. Albert Schweitzer

March 8, 2014	#15
meadowyck Tomatovillian™ Join Date: May 2012 Location: Brooksville, FL Posts: 1,001	Thanks to all of you. I lost my mom 12 years ago and now that both parents are gone, it is a very strange way of life to no longer have the two folks who know everything about you from the time of your birth to when you left home to enter to big wide world on your own.... Again for those who are having to go through health issues with you parents I am praying for you, that you are given strength. Again to all the members here who shared their wonderful seeds with me I can't thank you enough. As gardening is a healing form of therapy for me. __________________ Jan “Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.” -Theodore Roosevelt

March 7, 2014	#2
FaithHopeLove Tomatovillian™ Join Date: May 2013 Location: Summerfield, FL Posts: 197	Sp very sorry for the loss of your Father. ;( Thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.

March 7, 2014	#3
Doug9345 Tomatovillian™ Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Durhamville,NY Posts: 2,706	You have my condolences.

March 8, 2014	#4
pdxwindjammer Tomatovillian™ Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Portland, OR Posts: 625	I am so sad for you. I posted a similar post when my mom passed away 3 years ago and it was deleted by the moderators. I had hoped to find support from all the folks here who I share my love of gardening with so don't be surprised if this disappears. Just know that this community cares about you and grieves with you.

March 8, 2014	#6
Cole_Robbie Tomatovillian™ Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Illinois, zone 6 Posts: 8,407	sorry for your loss

March 8, 2014	#7
gssgarden Tomatovillian™ Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: N.C. Posts: 1,822	So sorry!

March 8, 2014	#8
momato Tomatovillian™ Join Date: Feb 2013 Location: baltimore Posts: 53	Very sorry for your loss

March 8, 2014	#9
Father'sDaughter Tomatovillian™ Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: MA/NH Border Posts: 4,917	I am so sorry for your loss.

March 8, 2014	#10
ExpendableZero Tomatovillian™ Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Alabama Zone: 7b Posts: 49	I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.

March 8, 2014	#11
Alpinejs Tomatovillian™ Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: Alpine, Calif. in winter. Sandpoint Lake, Ont. Canada summers Posts: 850	I am glad that your father was so dear to you and that the memories are good ones.

March 8, 2014	#12
Wi-sunflower Tomatovillian™ Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Wisconsin Posts: 2,591	I want to add my condolences also. I know all too well how awful you probably feel right now because my Mom died recently too. (the end of Dec. she was 92) You feel much like I did in that the pain and suffering are over for them but is just beginning for us. While it's not easy, don't be afraid to grieve. It's a necessary part of the process of going on. I still find myself thinking "oh I should call Mom and tell her about that" and then have to remember "oh I can't". But it does gradually get easier. The thoughts gradually change to "Mom would have liked that" and you have a fond memory rather than the hurt. This is not an easy time. Hopefully you have some friends and family that can help with all that goes along with taking care of your step-Mom. I was fortunate that my Sister was a tremendous help and organized most of the clean out of Mom's apartment. Something else that has helped me is just writing about things like this in a few threads here and on FaceBook. Let it out. Carol

March 8, 2014	#13
katkoot Tomatovillian™ Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: California Posts: 69	So sorry for your loss. My father isn't doing the best as well, and I feel your loss strongly.