Divorce garden

[Nan_PA_6b]

I've had years where I had great intentions planting a garden, only to have depression cripple me to where I didn't keep it up. Underneath the weeds, there's still a harvest! What a metaphor. My prayers go with you.

[Worth1]

I have known people that have stayed together until the child or children were out of school and on their own before separating.
I find this to be an admirable attribute if at all it can be done.
There are as many reasons for divorce as there are people on this earth.
Not all the time can a relationship be reconcilable nor is it healthy to stay together.

While my wife was going through cancer she got worse and worse and became a Person I didn't know anymore.
Very hateful towards me and I had no idea why.
My guess was she was trying to run me off so I wouldn't have to see the end but she never had a calculating mind like that.
Not until I saw the death certificate did it all come together.
Cancer had crept into her brain causing these wild mood swings.
I stuck through it thick and thin as according to my vows and my love for the woman I married not the woman cancer turned her into.
Some times I hated this woman and wanted to run away but didn't.

Which brings me to karma.
At work in Alaska one guy every one thought was the nicest person they ever met told told me to divorce the B&tch and get a new life.
Their words.
I was astounded that some jackass could say such a thing.
I wanted to pound his sorry goody two shoe a$$ into the mud on the spot.

Well I found out this same creepy creep that said such a nasty thing about my wife in her suffering has came down with leukemia.
A little part inside me said he deserved it for telling me to leave my wife and it is still there.
I am human after all.

As for you Mr Nematode you do what you feel is right for you that is the only way you can live your life.
You sure as hell dont live it for others when they dont want to live theirs for you.
Nor do you have to live with any judgment others put upon you.
Enjoy your garden my friend you deserve it for all the good you have done in life.
I know you well from your many posts here and our correspondence off line.

You are a good man.

[clkeiper]

I am sad to hear this for you. prayers.

[Nematode]

Thank you all again. Your kind words help a lot.
It is a difficult time. There was a lot of good in our relationship, and much fun had over the years, but in the end not compatible.
Heart breaks for my sons especially the 15 year old. Hard enough being 15 without your family blowing up.

[Nematode]

Tomatoes are out. 50/50 sun and wind will finish them off. Only a little patch of shade cloth, might save a couple.
New hydroponic starter system grew them too fast.
Some were nearly 7' tall in 60 days. 30 days max before plant out next year.

[GrowingCoastal]

Sympathies. Been there, done that, too.
Take care and take yourself out to the garden. It is healing.

[DonDuck]

I feel for you nematode and wish you the very best. I've never taken life very seriously. I have "good" days and "bad" days, but I take it one day at a time and try to enjoy the good times and leave the memories of the bad times in yesterday.

[Lindalana]

Originally Posted by Nematode

Tomatoes are out. 50/50 sun and wind will finish them off. Only a little patch of shade cloth, might save a couple.
New hydroponic starter system grew them too fast.
Some were nearly 7' tall in 60 days. 30 days max before plant out next year.

Wow! I would like to hear details on that hydroponic system, please.

[Tomzhawaii]

Originally Posted by Lindalana

Wow! I would like to hear details on that hydroponic system, please.

Yes, I saw your pictures. Super growth. What was your nutrients?
About divorce... it's awkward and nerve wracking. For me, I stayed focused on just being a dad. Almost everything for me was a big change. Hang in there and stay strong.
Aloha, Tom

[Nematode]

Lindalana
Starter setup.
Basically an nft setup run once a day with coir starter blocks.
Looks like i started 3/17 waaayyyy to early for tomato with a june 1 plant out date here. They went from robust beautiful starts to leggy mess after they overshot the led lighting.
3x 260 watt leds
http://www.tomatoville.com/showthrea...774#post729774
Nutrients are masterblend tomato, epsom salt, yara calcinit, little bit of kno3.
Ec 2.0

[neoguy]

I'm sorry to hear about the adversity you and the kids are facing. You and the boys will be OK, just keep the faith.

[AlittleSalt]

Nematode, I care.

I saw this thread right after you started it. I don't have right words to say - except I care.

[Nematode]

About a week outside.
Surprised they are alive at all with no hardening off.
Looking rough.
I'll get a few i guess.
7' is much to tall for transplants. I would guess they will grow another 6-7 before its over.
Tempted to let a side shoot go and take the main leader out to keep height under control.
Not really interested in lean and lower at this time.
Had half dozen ripe sungolds yesterday.

[Nematode]

Forgot to attach

That’s what I would do ... keep the sideshoots. For you it’s still pretty early in the season.